How Scams And Ideas Can Slowly Consume Us – Mind Manipulation

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Whenever we hear someone was conned out of a
small fortune, we are quick to judge the victim based on the story they tell.

We ask, “How could anyone fall for such an
obvious lie?”

Or “I would never believe such a bunch of bullsh*t!”

But there’s a lot more going on in a con game
and the story scammers tell is just a framework for long-proven methods of
deception or psychological manipulation.

Damaging Effects Of Ideologies

The more you hear a lie and the more people
around you who believe it, the easier and sooner you begin to accept that lie
for yourself.

Stockholm syndrome where hostages come to empathize with their captors, adopt their way of thinking, and even help them after their ordeal is a well-accepted phenomenon.

Many who seek to understand or explain this
phenomenon concentrate on the relationship between hostages and those who took
them hostage, but there’s another important factor: Ideological immersion.

When utterly surrounded by an idea, human beings
need to fight hard to resist that idea especially when under the influence of
social or physical pressure.

Billionaire heiress Patty Hearst (below) famously joined the terrorist group who kidnapped her and before she was caught, went on to help them rob banks under her new name of “Tania” and denounced her family based on newly adopted beliefs.

Image: Simon Murphy/Flickr

Relationships are a powerful bond that cement
these ideologies in the hearts and minds of people even under the worst of
circumstances.

Victims of life-long abuse remain emotionally
committed to their abusers and the damage done to one generation can be passed
onto the next in a tragic cycle of abusive behavior.

This is getting a little dark but a con game
that gets under someone’s skin or a lie to which people become utterly
convinced is also a deeply damaging form of mental assault and is often
dismissed because the details of that deception – the story upon which this
form of abuse was based – often seems ridiculous or unworthy of empathy.

The Slow Attack

This kind of gradual absorption of an idea
requires skill to be applied over time and many factors are at play.

Hollywood likes their con artists to be sexy and
attractive but reality isn’t always so kind to a gifted grifter, so they employ
many inter-personal hooks to lead their victims up the garden path.

What matters is how carefully and slowly they
feed their story to the mark and how artfully they intercept every anticipated
resistance to that story.

Do you really think every victim of a con game
just said, “Sure, that sounds fantastic! Where’s my checkbook?” 

It’s a much more subtle game than that and that
same disbelief you might feel when hearing the story from a sucker after the
scammer is long gone is the same disbelief that sucker felt when they
first heard the story from that scammer.

And it’s not just that the con artist can tell
the story so well (and they can) it’s that they understand it’s just a matter
of time before a human being begins to doubt their initial reaction and leans
towards even the most obvious of falsehoods.

Later, I’ll write about how this same principle
is at work when gamblers play for long hours and find themselves veering away
from working strategies, falling into bizarre rabbit holes in search of luck.

But it’s the slow, careful, patient nature of
this assault on our senses that allows us to flirt with ideas we might easily
have dismissed if confronted directly.

It’s like the body of a great psychological snake slowly and gently wrapping itself around its next meal until it’s too late to resist that inevitable squeeze.

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Image: David Clode/Unsplash

It’s Everywhere

All around us, advertisers, political interests,
and ideologies are dropping grains of sand that build over time and, in many
cases, will ultimately consume us.

A con artist actually does this more quickly (on
average) but the principle is the same.

And not just outright con artists.

Talented sales people also know how and when to
apply pressure once they know exactly what you want.

In my 20s, I wisely invested in an apartment in
Edinburgh in an up-and-coming neighborhood where old sandstone tenement flats
were being snapped up by a new generation of younger, trendier buyers.

Naturally the place needed a little modernizing,
so my wife and I went to several kitchen companies and agreed to meet one
representative at our apartment.

He arrived before noon and when he left six
hours later, we had not only bought the most fantastic kitchen for miles around
but we’d also paid for it with a credit agreement that was possibly designed by
the Mafia.

That credit agreement cost a small fortune to us
every month and yet the principal loan never went down.

When I reviewed if with a financial advisor two
years later, I realized that the amount owed was increasing despite our high
payments!

This type of credit plan was later deemed illegal
but too late for victims like us or for the snake who sold it to us.

And how did we fall for this?

How did we sign up for such an obviously bad
credit deal?

Six hours!

We honestly can’t recall what the hell he talked
about for so long but he talked a lot and never flinched when challenged or
asked to leave.

Did we ask him to leave?

I think we did. We must have.

Did we?

We definitely asked for more time to think –
possibly dozens of times – but he persisted and evaded and approached from
different angles until we began to respond, and he would reward us with offers
and advantages and bonuses to the “deal.”

Eventually, like all human beings, we
surrendered to his persistence and to our own wants and desires that were –
just like in a great con game –  the most
powerful weapons against us.

He knew we wanted that kitchen and all he had to
do was wait for our resistance to wane.

So for two years, I paid for that damned kitchen
but on the bright side, when we sold the apartment for a fantastic profit, it
was the kitchen that sealed the deal!

Losing Balance

None of us are immune to constant stimuli of any
kind and can only hold out so long before committing to ideas or concepts that
surround or engulf us.

Maintaining an even perspective on all things is
like walking on a high wire where eventually we must fall one way or another.

Those who seek to manipulate us know that no one
can remain in the middle on any matter and will continue to nudge us to fall on
their side and with enough of these nudges none of us can resist the gravity
of our own psychological nature
.

That being said, we can and should try to walk
our own wire for as long as we can and pay close attention when we are being
influenced by one side or the other.

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